H.A.P.P.Y

Happiness. Can happiness ever really be defined? Happiness has so many definitions, it means different things to different people. Even wikipedia had more than one definition;
"In philosophy and (western) religion, happiness may be defined in terms of living a good life, or flourishing, rather than simply as an emotion. Happiness in this sense was used to translate the Greek eudaimonia, and is still used in virtue ethics. There has been a transition over time from emphasis on the happiness of virtue to the virtue of happiness.
In psychology, happiness is a mental or emotional state of well-being which can be defined by, among others, positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy. Since the turn of the millennium, psychologists have increasingly become interested in developing an approach to human flourishing. This is seen prominently in the work of Martin Seligman, Ed Diener and Ruut Veenhoven, and in the international developmental and medical research of Paul Anand." According to google, happiness is a state of feeling or showing pleasure or contentment. 

Happiness is a word thrown around very often by practically every one. Especially nowadays when everybody is some sort of life coach or woke guru. What really is happiness? Well, my friend, I'm afraid I might not be a lot of help, but I'm gonna share my thoughts anyway. 

I  think happiness is a constant state of elation. It is the feeling I get when I'm laughing at the corniest joke ever, especially when it was cracked by someone I care about, it is also the feeling I get when I get a hug from someone I care about a lot, it's the feeling I get when I spend time with friends, especially when we've been apart for so long, it's the feeling I get when I accomplish a task, it's the feeling I get when I laugh genuinely, it's the feeling I get when I have a good meal, the feeling I get when I binge on junk. It is also the feeling I get when I get a win and I know God is working. As an all round happy person, not my words by the way, there are a lot of things that make me happy. Get this though, sometimes I get in a funk, and it can get really bad. Some might say balance, but that's debatable, but we'll discuss that some other time. How do I get out of it? 

One word: People. Some might say it's crap. Talmbout how you don't need people to be happy and God is the real key to your happiness, while I am not an atheist and I love God, if you've lived my life, you would too. I'd like to remind you that God won't exactly come down and blow joy into your heart. I understand and appreciate having a connection with God, but not everything is caused by your village witches - depression et al. You have to share that with people. I mean... Imagine having Jesus' joy and you never share that, simply because you don't need people to be happy, like bruh,. I may not know a lot, but I know that would be a lonely road to walk.

I also know that in almost every form of happiness, every step of the way, someone is involved. You never reach peak happiness on your own. Someone is always involved. Career success, marital bliss, fun with friends, money in the bank, food on your table and many more. Another human is always part of the process.

Please note that I am in no way encouraging unhealthy dependency and constant seeking of validation. I just want you to understand that, it is absolutely fine to recognize that other people can be vital parts of your happiness. They are what I like to call  a necessary evil. My advice to you, is find your necessary evil, do not let them go, try not to push them away, be there for them and watch the world be a beautiful place, even on it's darkest day.

Be Happy, Stay Beautiful, You are loved.
- Oore