Relationships??

It's 2018 and relationships are not exactly what they used to be, commitment has become a "Herculean task ", Love isn't a factor in having relationships, infidelity has become a norm- even among married couples, I'm almost certain I don't need to mention the problems with relationships today. First of all, before members of team #NotAll come for me, I am fully aware that there are happy flourishing relationships with maximum loyalty out there.

I'm just here to mention a few things I've seen people do that I find weird and believe might be bad or toxic for relationships

• One time, my colleague at work was telling us about how he always threatens his fiancé (then girlfriend) whenever she does something he doesn't like. At that time, the most recent one at the time was - get this- he told her that he wasn't coming home because she was sick and wasn't eating. I wanted to whack his head with a purse really. Like HOW???! I feel like making threats isn't great in any relationship. We should be able to talk things out and reach a compromise without threats. 🌚

• I understand in a relationship, you should keep an eye on one another and have an idea of where your partner is. I also feel you should take their word for it. I've been in a danfo and some dude had his phone on speaker and was telling his girlfriend that he has people watching. He was probably joking - didn't sound like it - but that sounded creepy honestly. Point is; Don't be a monitoring spirit to your partner. 

• External pressure is a major factor in everything. From the formation of rocks to the shape of your Eba. A lot of people let the opinion of their friends and the way other people run their relationship affect and sometimes dictate how you run yours. Different strokes for different folks yo. Remember that. I also think you should always do you. People think he's bad for You? What do you think? If you're wrong, can you bear the consequence? People think she's perfect for You? What do you think? 

• As one of my deans once said " Assumption is the lowest level of knowledge " (If someone else said it first, good for them) Never assume. Especially in a relationship. Sometimes, it's just nothing. If you think it's nothing, ask your partner. What's the worst that'll happen? They'll end the relationship. Trust me dear, there's always better. You'll always get over them. May take time, but you will.

I know this isn't your conventional relationship post, but these are things I've seen and I think are weird and slightly toxic. 

Feel free to comment weird relationship norms and other things you've seen people do that you find disturbing. 

I'd also like to state that these are MY opinions and once again "Different strokes for different folks" Do whatever works for you. 

P.S: If you've seen the Tyler Perry movie - Acrimony, please tell me what you think about the movie. 

- 💚 Oore

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